Who is Jay Marie?
Stalking is illegal. Cyber-harassment is illegal. Threatening is illegal. What Jay Marie is doing to Emoya Big Cat Sanctuary, is criminal and unlawful. Emoya will be taking appropriate action. We will not be bullied.
Screenshots of a few examples of the messages Jay Marie has sent to Emoya supporters, personal friends and family of the Heusers and Minunette:
25 October 2018 Jay Marie’s Facebook status
Heuser Hunting by Savannah Heuser
25 September 2018 Facebook message to friends & family re Minunette killing Savannah’s father
19 September 2018 WhatsApp message to Minunette wishing Savannah gets murdered
31 August 2018 WhatsApp message to Minunette re. ruining Savannah’s dream
The harassment started shortly after the relationship between Emoya and Animal Defenders International (ADI) broke down during June 2017, after the horrific murder of Liso & Jose.
Jay Marie has created several fake Facebook accounts. She continues making defamatory comments about Emoya and Minunette and Savannah Heuser. Jay Marie, a cyber-bully, is a staunch ADI supporter and regularly sends WhatsApp messages to Minunette, quoting ADI news letters with threats.
Dear Jay Marie
We request that you stop contacting us, our friends and family; stop posting
and sharing untrue allegations about Emoya, our friends, our family and
Minunette & Savannah Heuser
Regardless of what Jay Marie will post, share or send next, we request no harassment of Jay Marie in any form, even if this is a fake profile. When they go low, we go high.
What is cyber-stalking, cyber-harassment, or cyber-bullying?
• Checking your email without permission
• Impersonating you or spreading rumours about you
• Posting embarrassing, fake or intimate videos, photos or comments about you
• Constantly messaging, emailing or texting you in a way that makes you feel intimidated or scared, or
• Harassing you on social networking sites such as Facebook, Twitter, MySpace or dating/chat/games sites.
• It may involve threats or sexual comments.
Cyber-harassment is not just about being teased – it’s repeated behaviour that is designed to humiliate, control or scare the person being targeted. It’s not legal, and it’s not OK. The person could get dangerous.
Advice for when you or someone you know are cyber-bullied:
• Know that it’s not your fault. Don’t respond or retaliate. Sometimes a reaction is exactly what aggressors are looking for because they think it gives them power over you, and you don’t want to empower a bully. As for retaliating, getting back at a bully turns you into one – and can turn one mean act into a chain reaction. If you can, remove yourself from the situation. If you can’t, sometimes humor
disarms or distracts a person from bullying.
• Save the evidence. The only good news about bullying online or on phones is that it can usually be captured, saved, and shown to someone who can help. You can save that evidence in case things escalate.
• Tell the person to stop. This is completely up to you – don’t do it if you don’t feel totally comfortable doing it, because you need to make your position completely clear that you will not stand for this treatment any more. You may need to practice beforehand with someone you trust, like a parent or good friend.
• Reach out for help – especially if the behavior’s really getting to you. You deserve backup. See if there’s someone who can listen, help you process what’s going on and work through it – a friend, relative or maybe an adult you trust.
• Use available tech tools. Most social media apps and services allow you to block the person. Whether the harassment’s in an app, texting, comments or tagged photos, do yourself a favor and block the person. You can also report the problem to the service. That probably won’t end it, but you don’t need the harassment in your face, and you’ll be less tempted to respond. If you’re getting threats of physical harm, you should call your local police (with a parent or guardian’s help) and consider reporting it to school authorities.
• Protect your accounts. Don’t share your passwords with anyone – even your closest friends, who may not be close forever – and password-protect your phone so no one can use it to impersonate you. You’ll find advice at passwords.connectsafely.org.
• If someone you know is being bullied, take action. Just standing by can empower an aggressor and does nothing to help. The best thing you can do is try to stop the bullying by taking a stand against it. If you can’t stop it, support the person being bullied. If the person’s a friend, you can listen and see how to help. Consider together whether you should report the bullying. If you’re not already friends, even a kind word can help reduce the pain. At the very least, help by not passing along a mean message and not giving positive attention to
the person doing the bullying.